Friendship and communication...
We were all excited to share on his big day - fun was had by all in attendance. And everyone was in agreement that theirs was a match made in heaven, the newlyweds were all smitten and loved up...
So we all took selfies, pics and videos to enable us revisit these moments in future. I mean so much happens at these functions and one can never be at more than one place at a time - in fact some people come and go without even getting a chance to chat and catch up with others. Both families (groom and bride's), friends and neighbours were from all parts of the country and this was an opportunity to see each other again and let the good times roll...
Fast forward to a few days later and I am in hot water. How did it get here you ask? Well here's how it all unfolded:
I was invited as one of the groomsmen to the wedding. In fact, I was the "best man" - yep, I got the honour! And like everyone who was invited, I took pictures and videos and shared those on all my social media accounts, showed them to friends and family and colleagues - I mean I am in the pictures so why the heck not? I thought the world should see that I still got it and hopefully get some affirmation to boost my confidence and get admiration, wink wink!
Then out of thin air, like a silent fart, and with no prior warning I am being reprimanded! Bathong! "And then?" That's the question that immediately came to mind. "No one ever said we must not use the footage taken at the weddings mos? So why are you all up in your feelings bro?", these were more questions as I continued to deliberate the matter at hand. Surely I am not the only one doing some PR about the wedding, what about the rest of the bridal party? Or did they get the real time memo and mine was sent via snail mail?
It turns out some people (colleagues, friends and neighbours) were not invited to the wedding and if "they" saw the images and videos then the groom would have to "explain" why they were not invited. But then again, how or why is this my problem? And why should I own it? After all, this concern was never raised before, during or after the wedding. No one explicitly stated that we should not take pictures or videos, and no one said we should not use any of the footage - so why the restrictions for a decision that was personal to the groom?
This is here clear communication comes in. Had all this been cleared up beforehand, it would have spared me the unnecessary apology....
So we all took selfies, pics and videos to enable us revisit these moments in future. I mean so much happens at these functions and one can never be at more than one place at a time - in fact some people come and go without even getting a chance to chat and catch up with others. Both families (groom and bride's), friends and neighbours were from all parts of the country and this was an opportunity to see each other again and let the good times roll...
Fast forward to a few days later and I am in hot water. How did it get here you ask? Well here's how it all unfolded:
I was invited as one of the groomsmen to the wedding. In fact, I was the "best man" - yep, I got the honour! And like everyone who was invited, I took pictures and videos and shared those on all my social media accounts, showed them to friends and family and colleagues - I mean I am in the pictures so why the heck not? I thought the world should see that I still got it and hopefully get some affirmation to boost my confidence and get admiration, wink wink!
Then out of thin air, like a silent fart, and with no prior warning I am being reprimanded! Bathong! "And then?" That's the question that immediately came to mind. "No one ever said we must not use the footage taken at the weddings mos? So why are you all up in your feelings bro?", these were more questions as I continued to deliberate the matter at hand. Surely I am not the only one doing some PR about the wedding, what about the rest of the bridal party? Or did they get the real time memo and mine was sent via snail mail?
It turns out some people (colleagues, friends and neighbours) were not invited to the wedding and if "they" saw the images and videos then the groom would have to "explain" why they were not invited. But then again, how or why is this my problem? And why should I own it? After all, this concern was never raised before, during or after the wedding. No one explicitly stated that we should not take pictures or videos, and no one said we should not use any of the footage - so why the restrictions for a decision that was personal to the groom?
This is here clear communication comes in. Had all this been cleared up beforehand, it would have spared me the unnecessary apology....
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